I will rejoice and set my affection on the Maker of all things new.
Singleness is a season that quite frankly, many despise. Most people have this inner longing for companionship on a deeper level and starting a family. Those are wonderful desires, and I believe that God put those desires into our hearts for a reason. Not everyone is called to get married, but if those desires are in your heart, then God may be preparing your heart for marriage someday.
I have been single now for five years. To some, that may seem like a long time, while others may have been single longer. Whatever the case may be, one must remember that God’s main concern is readiness. God is good father. He will not give you the keys to marriage and then watch you crash into divorce, destruction, and despair simply because you were not ready.
Has the waiting been hard for me? Yes. Do I have a desire to get married and start a family? Absolutely! Do I want to rush into marriage and have that marriage fail because I was not ready? No. This season of singleness can be a huge blessing when having the right perspective. I am at the place where I am glad that I was not married sooner because during this season, God has been healing me from brokenness, past relationships, and pain that could have been devastating if these issues and baggage were brought into marriage.
God wants to bring two whole people together so that they will have a whole marriage and bring Him the most glory. Also, He wants your heart and for you to be devoted to Him first. “An unmarried women or virgin is concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world—how she can please her husband” (1 Corinthians 7:34). He wants you to realize in this season that true love, joy, peace, wholeness, and contentment is found in Him. There will be trials in marriage, and a couple rooted in the love of Christ will have a stronger chance of surviving as they cling to Jesus and allow Him to heal, restore, and revive their marriage.
At this point in time, I can finally say that I have found contentment in God and He has showed me that He is all I need. I do not know when God will call me into marriage, but I do know that when it is time, God will not wait a minute longer because His timing is perfect.
Single ladies and men, please do not listen to the lies of the enemy that God has forgotten about your desires and that you will finally be happy once you get married and have a family. God brought you to this blog to tell you that He has everything you are looking for and more. Also, do not allow the devil to create restlessness in your heart, and have you idolize marriage and end up marrying the wrong person—the one God never intended for you to marry. It is important to pray for discernment, guidance, strength, and patience. As I continue to wait for God, I will continue to serve, love God and others, and grow so that when the time comes for God to bring my future spouse and I together, we will be able to enjoy the fruits of our patience, obedience, and our secure foundation in Christ. I pray that you do the same. “Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a longing fulfilled is a tree of life” (Proverbs 13:12)